what is a friend?

noun \ˈfrend\
: a person who you like and enjoy being with

: a person who helps or supports someone or something (such as a cause or charity)

I realize throughout my life I have made many friends.  My friendships go back to those I attended grammar school and high school with.  We have found ourselves reconnected because of social media.  Throughout recent years I have found myself with friends that live in my computer.  What is that you ask?  We met through common interests mainly blogging and adoption.  Why do they live in my computer?  We live across the world and may not ever meet in person.  Why then would I consider them a friend?  Because we have shared interests and converse somewhat regularly and again through social media.

Yet I have in my current life friends.  Friends that I have known through the 22 years I have lived in California, my mommy group friends who I met when our oldest was still a baby,  the friends we made on our shared journey to parenthood through adoption and those who we met when we moved to our neighborhood almost 2-1/2 years ago, and the friends I have made through being with my girls whether it be ballet or their elementary school .  I can say ALL of these people add to our daily lives.

Friends have been able to step in and help and in return I have been able to do the same.  Friends have celebrated with us holidays, birthdays or just a new season and reason to get together.  We are creating fun memories.

I watch my girls form their own friendships separate from those of the families we know together.  I see them create their own independent lives and realize how much they have grown.  When they were little, their immediate friends were the children of the Moms I met from the Mommy Group I had joined. Now they have friends from school, girl scouts, ballet and soccer too.

I thankful we all have these friendships in our lives and share with them interests and time.


Day 17, #NaBloPoMo #BlogHer




Make new Friends but keep the old


friend·shipˈfren(d)SHip/noun as defined by Google
  1. the emotions or conduct of friends; the state of being friends.
    synonyms: relationship, close relationship, attachment, mutual attachment,association, bond, tie, link, union;

    “lasting friendships”
    • a relationship between friends.
      plural noun: friendships
      “she formed close friendships with women”

“Make new friends but keep the old, one is silver and the other gold, a circle’s round and has no end, that’s how long I want to be your friend!” These are the words from a Girl Scout Campfire Song that my girls and I know well as we sing it at camp in the summer and one we sing at the closing of the meeting for each of their troops.

It is also a song that became our mantra for our move a little over a year ago for our family. We were leaving friends that each girl had made in preschool and elementary school and the same was true for my husband and me.  We had lived in our home for nine years so we had made friends with our neighbors and the parents of our girls’ school friends.

We reminded ourselves that we would still see our “old” friends since we were only moving 25 miles away and that we would make new friends where we were moving.  I instilled this mantra in our lives hoping it was true.  I have recently posted about the neighborhood we find ourselves living in now in my post We live in Pleasantville where we have made new friends both for our girls as noted and for ourselves.

I sit here thinking about friendships and think about the valuable friendships I have made through the networks of blogging and social media. Opportunity has presented itself where I’ve met some of my virtual friends in person and I have reconnected with elementary, high school and other friends through social media.  All of these friendships bring great value to my life and I really appreciate the efforts we all make to stay in touch if only online.

I’d like to introduce you to a few of my blogging friends who I had the pleasure of meeting and getting to know and become friends with when I attended #BlogHer over the summer.  They like me have written about Friendship:

Phyllis of Napkin Hoarder who wrote Making Friends #NaBloPoMo 17

Cheryl of Busy Since Birth who wrote First Friend #NaBloPoMo 17

Kimberly of Red Shutters Blog who wrote Musings on Friendship

Danielle of Another Version of Mother who wrote my Phone People

Melissa at A Wide Line who wrote Friendship Squares

This is my 17th contribution to National Blog Posting Month, click #NaBloPoMo to read the many other bloggers contributing for this event, Enjoy!