Thankful for the emotional space we have given both of our girls to talk about and share anything that comes to mind … recently our youngest told my husband how much she loves him, loves her family, her birth mother and all and how she was so thankful that S chose us to be her Mommy & Daddy, made us both teary.
Each of our girl’s adoption is a part of our conversation whether spoken or thought. It is something we have been telling our girls since the day they each were born. My husband wrote a song/lullaby for each girl that tells their story. Extending our family with each of their family keeps the story of how our family came to be a present part of our everyday lives.
It can be something as simple when our girls were younger as they’re holding a baby doll and telling us they had adopted him or her. Telling us when they get older they will adopt children to their family.
As our girls have grown their understanding of our family’s story has grown. Since it is part of our normal family dialogue it is not unusual for a conversation to start from nowhere, usually while driving somewhere in the car.
There have been times when spending a day or trip with their family that the emotions boil up near the end of the visit/trip. We have allowed this emotion to start a conversation to give them words to the feelings they are having. Are you sad because C is leaving? Are you upset because our time together is over for today? It’s okay to feel sad or be upset, when we love someone and our time together ends it’s okay to feel sad or even mad.
We know for all of us it is important to let the conversation be had whether it’s one that is sad or happy.
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