It seems odd that as grown people we would have fear about a phone call? Both of us professionals out there in the world talking to all kinds of people. What would promote this fear in us?
The fear of the unknown, who is this person on the other line? Do they know how nervous we are? What do we say? How do we start this conversation?
Of all the things that may come to us through our journey to parenthood through adoption, this was our first biggest fear! The first call!
When asked by the professionals working with us what we feared, we replied it would be the call or calls, how do we do it? The concept of speaking with an expectant mom or their family member or friend about the possibility of an adoption placement scared us. How would this conversation work, what do we say?
Luckily we had the wisdom of our facilitator in our ear with some advice: just have a conversation, they are like a friend let the conversation happen. You know what else she reminded us? They are pretty nervous too on the other end!
Along with helping us see what to do she had some questions that would start a conversation should we find ourselves stumped as well as to see if the caller had true intentions.
And so it begins we did receive some calls right after our website went live and we found we didn’t have to fear a call, just take it like a friend calling and who knows what might happen the next time we answer our phone …