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Mother’s Day for me is bittersweet …

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I want to wish all the REAL Moms I know a Happy Mother’s Day, each of you inspire me and to each of our girls’ birth moms I want to send my love to you for making my dreams come true and am so happy to share this day with you and our love for our daughters! ♥

Merriam-Webster definition

Bittersweet adj

1. :being at once bitter and sweet; especially : pleasant but including or marked by elements of suffering or regret

We began our journey to parenthood through adoption in 2005, and by some miracle we became parents in 2006 and again in 2008! It was a challenging experience to get from those days to today. The whole time while I wondered, when would it hit me that we were picked, that this baby was born, that we took her home, that we adopted her and were parents? Guess that day decided to show up… Bigger than Christmas and more meaningful than my birthday… and it happened twice! but I realize as my dreams came true there was another who made the choices and sacrificies to fulfill my dream and it was not something they had originally dreamed for themselves.

So it is on this day, Mother’s Day, that I have very mixed feelings … our girls have relationships with two mothers, the one who loved and cared for them for nine months and the one who loves and is raising them…and together we share the love of our daughters everyday!

I realized how blessed we all are, to first be a family and to call our girls’ birth families our family. I am thankful everyday that C and then S chose me to be the mother of their daughters.

Yes this is a pleasant day to be remembered as my daughters’ mother, but I know there are others who feel elements of suffering or unhappiness that they are not with their children everyday …

And here we are a family which means being there for each other during the fun and happy times, and the sad and unhappy so for that I wish all the REAL mothers I know a good day and hope they are feeling good about themselves!

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Two Moms sharing their proud moment of their daughter …

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Our eldest daughter A has been enjoying ballet classes.  In two years she has moved up to beginning intermediate which is a great accomplishment.  Both girls attend the same school and for now I sit through each of their classes occasionally taking pictures and when I do texting them to each of the birth moms and other family.

This Holiday season A was invited to participate in the local ballet company’s annual Christmas ballet performance.  She had to decide on her own was she ready to commit to the rehearsal schedule as well as keeping up with her normal classes bringing her dance classes to three times a week.  When she excitedly decided that this is what she wanted to do I immediately called C (her birth mom) with all the details of the show and dates hoping she might be able to travel and see this performance.

There was enough time for C to plan for that weekend’s visit allowing her to fly in from Minnesota and thrill in A’s performance and the show.

Why am I sharing this moment?  I feel it’s pretty significant that both C and I could share in this moment together as we watched our daughter perform on stage at the theatre.  We both sat next to each other with major smiles on our faces when her group came out to perform their dance that was part of the show.

In return, I know A was thrilled to have C be able to come in for the weekend and attend the show performances.  It was a wonderful event to be able to share together as family.

And with that we, the two moms, shared a proud moment of our now seven year old daughter as we watched in awe her performance for the Christmas ballet.