Mother’s Day for me is bittersweet …

I want to wish all the REAL Moms I know a Happy Mother’s Day, each of you inspire me and to each of our girls’ birth moms I want to send my love to you for making my dreams come true and am so happy to share this day with you and our love for our daughters! ♥

Merriam-Webster definition

Bittersweet adj

1. :being at once bitter and sweet; especially : pleasant but including or marked by elements of suffering or regret

We began our journey to parenthood through adoption in 2005, and by some miracle we became parents in 2006 and again in 2008! It was a challenging experience to get from those days to today. The whole time while I wondered, when would it hit me that we were picked, that this baby was born, that we took her home, that we adopted her and were parents? Guess that day decided to show up… Bigger than Christmas and more meaningful than my birthday… and it happened twice! but I realize as my dreams came true there was another who made the choices and sacrificies to fulfill my dream and it was not something they had originally dreamed for themselves.

So it is on this day, Mother’s Day, that I have very mixed feelings … our girls have relationships with two mothers, the one who loved and cared for them for nine months and the one who loves and is raising them…and together we share the love of our daughters everyday!

I realized how blessed we all are, to first be a family and to call our girls’ birth families our family. I am thankful everyday that C and then S chose me to be the mother of their daughters.

Yes this is a pleasant day to be remembered as my daughters’ mother, but I know there are others who feel elements of suffering or unhappiness that they are not with their children everyday …

And here we are a family which means being there for each other during the fun and happy times, and the sad and unhappy so for that I wish all the REAL mothers I know a good day and hope they are feeling good about themselves!


A time of honor and remembrance …

A Time of Honor and Remembrance
It is no small thing to give life.
To feel the kick of tiny feet.
To know that no matter how far apart you are,
there will always be someone out there
with whom you are connected.
To be a mother is to love,
to nurture,
to care.
To be a mother means to give your children the chance to be.
Birthmothers hold a very special place in the community of mothers.
On Mother’s Day especially, we deserve to be honored for all we have done for our children.
For the love we will always have for them.
For the place that is theirs alone in our hearts.
We begin by honoring each other.
~ Brenda Romanchik

This weekend is Mother’s Day and without the two women in our lives I would not be celebrating this day … the decisions they made and choosing us to be parents of their daughter’s has given me the opportunity to be a Mom and I cannot thank them enough …

We see this weekend of Mother’s Day/Birth Mother’s Day as a way to recognize the shared love we have for our children …

I personally do not choose one day over the other to let our daughter’s birth mothers know how much they mean to us …

We celebrate it as Mother’s Day with cards, gifts made by our girls (now almost 7 and 5 years old) and flowers from us sent to them.

We know how blessed we are throughout the year and to have both women and their extended families be part of our families … but we believe showing an extra special recognition on this weekend is important too!