adoption

where to begin …

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So now that the decision has been made, well at least talked about out loud but how do we begin?  Where does one go when they are considering adoption? the internet and the library of course!

So taking a leap of faith we begin really considering our decision to journey to parenthood through adoption … what does that look like?  Will we consider adopting through a domestic adoption? international adoption or foster adoption?  Do we know anyone who has adopted? hmmm…

Books that’s how we start with books!  I look back now and think of one of the first books we bought “Adoption for Dummies” I hear some of you wincing and chuckling but I tell you it was a great place to start.  In reading this book it became clear to us that maybe just maybe a domestic adoption would be our way to have a family, we wanted to have the experience of parenting from infancy.  But were we sure? not yet exactly.

What next?  Well the internet of course!  Google adoption ~ WOW!  Well that gave me too much to look through.  How do I narrow this down?  Okay google pre-adoption support, that’s better a little more contained.  Here we are a local number and organization that offers pre-adoption support ~ Resolve.  Yes we saw information for this organization at some of the fertility clinics.  They offer information on adoption too?  First up an information night, two hours of our time to hear what adoption is and what it might mean for us.  Okay we are signed up.

We have our book to read as we wait for the approaching date for the information night we are to attend where we will hear in more detail what having a family through adoption looks like.  Will it be a domestic adoption? international adoption? or foster adoption?

Second choice, not second best

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People ask why did we adopt?  Well it wasn’t our first choice to have a family through adoption, it came after the trials and tribulations of trying to conceive.  It’s not like adoption wasn’t something we hadn’t mentioned at least once.  You see our journey to parenthood was not exactly as we had planned.

Our path changed course after years of trying to get pregnant, first on our own and then with the assistance of medical science and local area fertility clinics.  After spending more money than I want to think about and feeling more like a pin cushion, for me it became about becomming a Mommy and not needing to become pregnant to do that.

So our second choice ~ adoption ~ became the path that we would journey to parenthood. We do not see this as second best, it is the best choice we made to find ourselves as Mommy & Daddy.

We suffered through infertility and not belonging among other friends and family having children around us.  When we walked onto this different path we found ourselves amongst others just like us, here because we wanted to become parents and realizing it’s not the second choice but the choice to make to become parents through other means.

I will use this blog as a means to share our journey, how we educated ourselves and sought out the support and community we needed and continue to be part of through our journey to parenthood through adoption.  I will also share what parenting children that are adopted is like what makes it different and what does not from our personal experiences.

We are today, the proud parents of two daughters entrusted to us each at birth.  We have expanded our family not just with our daughters but with their families as well.  We have become one big family seamlessly and we realize how blessed we are!

I hope you will join me as we share our ups and downs to family building whether you are already a parent through adoption, someone considering adoption as a way to family, a birth parent or an adoptee or someone just curious what is a REAL family.

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