Month: December 2013

Two Moms sharing their proud moment of their daughter …

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Our eldest daughter A has been enjoying ballet classes.  In two years she has moved up to beginning intermediate which is a great accomplishment.  Both girls attend the same school and for now I sit through each of their classes occasionally taking pictures and when I do texting them to each of the birth moms and other family.

This Holiday season A was invited to participate in the local ballet company’s annual Christmas ballet performance.  She had to decide on her own was she ready to commit to the rehearsal schedule as well as keeping up with her normal classes bringing her dance classes to three times a week.  When she excitedly decided that this is what she wanted to do I immediately called C (her birth mom) with all the details of the show and dates hoping she might be able to travel and see this performance.

There was enough time for C to plan for that weekend’s visit allowing her to fly in from Minnesota and thrill in A’s performance and the show.

Why am I sharing this moment?  I feel it’s pretty significant that both C and I could share in this moment together as we watched our daughter perform on stage at the theatre.  We both sat next to each other with major smiles on our faces when her group came out to perform their dance that was part of the show.

In return, I know A was thrilled to have C be able to come in for the weekend and attend the show performances.  It was a wonderful event to be able to share together as family.

And with that we, the two moms, shared a proud moment of our now seven year old daughter as we watched in awe her performance for the Christmas ballet.

 

adoption themed books at storytime …

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Our girls chose “The Mulberry Bird” recently as part of our night time story time … although it was long for reading that time of night we read the entire book at one sitting …

For those not familiar with it’s story here is a review and description of the book:

Kindergarten-Grade 4-Relinquishment is the hardest part of adoption to talk about and is often glossed over in children’s books. Brodzinsky has chosen to tell the story using birds to represent the people involved. A young mother bird feeds and protects her baby, noticing that other mothers have mates to help them. Her baby’s father has flown away. Then a storm breaks her nest, and the baby falls to the ground. She goes to the wise owl for help, and he says the only way to solve her problem is to find a family to love and care for her child. She refuses at first, but then relents, and the owl carries the baby to the chosen shorebird couple. The young mother sees that her child is safe and loved, and sadly flies away forever. The baby hears from its adoptive parents the story of its first mother’s love and care. This revision of the 1986 story is longer, newly illustrated in watercolors, and reflects changes in adoption practice. Language has been made more inclusive: the baby’s need for “a mother and father” becomes its need for “a family.” More of the youngster’s feelings are included: anger and confusion as well as happiness and sadness. Still, the book is sure to prompt discussion.Nancy Schimmel, formerly of San Mateo County Library, CACopyright 1996 Reed Business Information, Inc.>

The conversation that followed is what I found interesting … J made an innocent comment and told us she wished she had two families to love her … well we chimed in YOU DO AND A DOES TOO! We then went on to talk about who were part of their two families … and both girls helped name out who their families are … afterwards J seemed excited to realize that she indeed has two families that love her ….