What are your boundaries?

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Wikipedia Definition Setting Boundaries:

Setting boundaries is a life skill that has been popularized by self help authors and support groups since the mid 1980’s. It is the practice of openly communicating and asserting personal values as way to preserve and protect against having them compromised or violatedThe term “boundary” is a metaphor – with in-bounds meaning acceptable and out-of-bounds meaning unacceptable. Without values and boundaries our identities become diffused and often controlled by the definitions offered by others.

There are many boundaries in our lives.  Some we set for ourselves and others that are set up for us either through professional expectations, educational lines or social codes.

As parents we set boundaries for our children that are part of their learning curve on behavior.  We have no hitting boundaries, no lying boundaries, no eating candy and cookies all day boundaries and many more.  Our children push and pull on the boundaries that we have set wanting to have none but needing them all and the boundaries change as they grow older. The boundaries are set with consequences for crossing over them as a way to teach our children.  It is the consequences we set that we are hoping our children to develop the knowledge of right and wrong.  A lot of these were learned as we were children and we may have tweaked them a bit to fit our family and how we are raising our children.

As a family built by adoption, we have set up some boundaries about discussions related to our family.  Now that our children are older we have taught them to choose when, to who and how they tell their family story.  Our family story is not a secret but as a family we believe it is a private matter and not to be shared without their consent.  I see that one of our daughters is more apt to share her family story and our other not so quick to share.  We are proud to see that they each have created their own boundaries for themselves.

What boundaries do you have set for yourself and/or your family?

This is day 2 of #NaBloPoMo #BlogHer


I did it!


Time for my personal pat on the back, I did it!  I excitedly took the BlogHer pledge to write for 30 days for National Blog Posting Month and I have written for 30 days with only one day that I had nothing, The Nothing Post.

It was a challenge I took for myself after attending the BlogHer conference this summer.  I felt if I was to be a blogger I needed to participate.

I have taken on different topics each day, different then how I originally started with this blog.  I didn’t just write about adoption or menopause.  I wrote about things that happen in my life and I liked it!

I am happy with myself for participating.  Something else that came from NaBloPoMo, I found other bloggers and read their blogs and ones I will continue to follow.

So happy 30th post to me! to read the many other bloggers participating, click #NaBloPoMo,  and enjoy everyone’s final post!

November = 30 days of Thankfulness and BlogHer NaBloPoMo

November is a month of thankfulness.  I look at this time of year as a way to look back on what the year has brought us and what the last two months of the year can have in store for us.  I want to write my gratitude out so I can remember it all.  I like to share it as I hope it will help others to think what they have to be thankful for.  I will be posting something for the next 30 days for which I am thankful and I wonder will others who read my blog  join in?

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And I will start close to my heart … I am very thankful and grateful for the man I can call my husband and best friend and who is the father to our daughters.  His love for his family and his girls are amazing.  For me, I may try his patience, push his buttons, and he is always there for me (and I him) I am so lucky.  Our lives are crazy sometimes not for the good, but I know we are there for each other.  We have weathered through a lot in the 19 years we know and love each other and that has given me a lot to be thankful for.


I am also challenging myself and joining the BlogHer roll for NaBloPoMo this year’s National Blog Posting Month to give me a boost for writing and sharing on my blog.  I figured after attending this year’s BlogHer14 it’s only fitting that I participate.  I will be challenging myself to write and post daily in the month of November …. here goes ….

There are many other bloggers participating in BlogHer’s National Blog Posting Month.  Click here #NaBloPoMo to read more, Enjoy!