You might say we agreed to an engagement with C after her visit … engagement you say? What does that mean?
You see, during our journey to parenthood one of the many things that we learned and agreed was that family-building through domestic open adoption was similar to getting married. How you ask? First you meet, kinda like dating, then while continuing this relationship you are asked by expectant parent(s) to be the parent of the baby, it’s like becomming engaged and when the baby is born your relationship becomes like a marriage, family!
We enjoyed our visit with C so much! It was so great to be together in person after months of communicating from a distance. She stayed at our home, saw the nursery we had been setting up (prior to even meeting her). We all attended a group gathering of the monthly support group with our facilitator. We toured around together, and through this only deepened our affection for each other.
To our surprise and pleasure she also invited us to visit her in her home state, come to a doctor’s appointment and join her for birthing classes. We were thrilled to say the least and this trip would also give us the opportunity to meet the baby’s father. Her baby was due in July. It would be May when we visited … so much to do and so little time as it was already the end of April!