We are already three days into the Fall season, the daily beat of our lives rolls one day into the next. Leaves are beginning to turn and our annual Indian summer weather is at its peak.
Our girls have been back into their school routine for a month now. It is hard to believe our summer break has already been over that long. Our oldest daughter is now a 4th grader and our youngest a 2nd grader.
There have been some fits and starts to this school year. Homework from the first day of school proved to create anger and frustration for our youngest. The class was working on the story Chrysanthemum the young mouse learning about her name. What could the anger be towards such a sweet story? Well our youngest wasn’t sure she wanted to share her story about how she got her name. You see her birth mom, my husband and I all worked together in naming her and she didn’t want to share her whole story. We talked about what she was angry and frustrated about this homework assignment. She shared she didn’t want to tell her whole story she didn’t want everyone to know our family story. We assured her that was ok. We reminded her how we all came up with her name sharing the name definitions that helped us to choose the names she has. This seemed to make her brighten knowing the whole story but also there was a part she could share that was appropriate for her class mates.
As our younger daughter seemed to struggle with who and what to share about our family story this year, our older daughter was struggling with a bully in her classroom and for a second year being in a classroom without any of her friends. The bullying began during summer on swim team and just our luck this girl was part of this years’ class. As the school year started up, a new student at school started to harass our daughter and now she had to deal with two who were in her class day in and day out. We tried to give her the tools to find her strength to walk away, say stop or whatever was needed as an incident occurred. At the same time, I was in contact with the school principal and her teacher. The principal didn’t seem to understand the enormity of this trifecta, being alone and isolated, and 2 bullies in her classroom. Her teacher shared that she wouldn’t allow bullying but you know what? it isn’t always going to be in her classroom for her to stop. What is the emotional toll day in and day out for my daughter to be in this class? We are here to support our daughter, I am at the school helping in the classroom, and we have given her an emotional safe place to talk about what’s going on. I see her sadness and it breaks my heart. I am still working on correcting this with the district and school principal. I’ve been through this too and survived it alone and I can share this with her and hope together we can find her strength to make her way through.
I never knew the full extent of how our parenting would have an effect on our girls. What I am sure about, is my being a stay-at-home mom is helping to know what’s going on at school for our girls and be aware of their daily lives.
With the start-up of school was the return of Fall soccer, Girl Scouts and our continued dance in ballet. Our schedules after school are full and tight. Friday is the only day without a practice or dance class. We have managed to find our new balance for our activities so far but the tipping point could be the start-up of Sunday rehearsals for the Christmas ballet that both of our girls will be performing in this year.
While our girls have returned to school, I have signed on to work at our school as a substitute (as needed) lunch & yard duty person. Right after I submitted my paperwork to the district our school needed me so M-F from 11:30-1:30 PM you will find me at school fulfilling my role. My end date right now is in mid-October. The extra bit of cash will be nice and I like that the job is not always 5 days every week.
Now the days are shorter with dark coming before 8 pm, our schedules are full with homework, soccer, dance, girl scouts and we are full swing into Fall. It is at our nightly dinners we talk about our day.
How is your Fall starting?
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I’m sorry school has gotten off to a rough start – hope things settle down soon!