Yesterday was my birthday and you knew that right? It’s not like I’ve been keeping it a secret LOL! The day was spent in my favorite way with my family doing family stuff and sneaking in some house stuff. Curtains hung as we continue to settle into our home after more than a year.
As we were finishing up dinner, we heard a rustle on our front porch and saw a person through headlights. What or who could that be? My husband went to the front door and found a bag filled with flowers, a card and a gift. When reading the card I saw it was from S (J’s birth mom). I quickly picked up my phone and called her to come back. What a thoughtful gesture, but not ring the bell after driving up from Fremont to our home? That will never do! She answered her phone right away and within minutes was back at our house with her son. Our girls were jumping up and down when I shared who the mystery gift giver was and that she would be coming back to share birthday cake with us!
And this was how we ended our Sunday, spent with the addition of more family!
The three kiddos playing and laughing and the three adults watching and laughing along!
This is what our family is about, being family. S driving up to our home to drop off a gift was more than nice and coming back and spending the evening of my birthday with us was the icing on the cake for my day!
I am on many online forums for adoption and I get sad when I read that parents are too scared to allow their children a relationship with their birth family. They seem to find so many reasons for not keeping a relationship (if there is a safety issue that is something else).
I know we are the lucky ones that as we embraced each of our girls’ birth families, they embraced us. As the years have gone by we have become a stronger family unit with our girls developing their own autonomous relationships with their family.
I love this is the way our Sunday ended!
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What makes a Real family? 
That’s so great!
I love reading stories like this but it’s hard, too! We have tried every avenue we can think of to maintain a relationship with our daughter’s birth mom but after the first two months she has been unresponsive. We so wish we could have her in our lives. I’m happy for you and other families like you who have that relationship!
I’m sorry to hear how hard it is for you and your family and that your daughter’s birth mother has been unresponsive to your attempts. My only recommendation is don’t stop. There may come a time when she’s ready to be in communication and for your daughter it’s important to keep trying. Like any relationship even ours have ebb and flow. Thank you for reading and commenting hoping better days for you 🙂